Do we need to do it all?!

Lately due to the lockdown, I have felt as if I am struggling and slowly drowning with jobs, things to do, the children, the dogs, the house, home schooling and more.

Quiet often, us especially as women feel like we need to do it all, but why, where has the expectation come from?! Is it really an expectation and by who!?

With working from home myself and my husband back out 12 hours a day at work, maybe in was one adding these expectations on myself. I have always been an independent woman especially 4years on my own with two children.

Over the weekend and in the past, I often spoke to the children and husband for more help. I would get it but short lived, maybe last a few weeks then have to remind or ask them to do things.

So yesterday, being the serial organised (as my hubby calls me) I have a major clean, tidy up and declutter, kids bedrooms, clothes and storage got attacked. I have decided to set out house expectations, and pocket money jobs, for the children, maybe should do one for hubby too, heheheh.

I have listed things like daily, weekly and monthly jobs. Shopping lists and additional jobs.

If we are really honest with ourselves, we really don’t have the time do do it all ourselves, so why not ask for help!? From household members.

Our even out-sauce some tasks, oh how I wish I had a cleaner, even if just once a month for a bigger deep clean.

Children can learn many life skills but helping out around the home, from an early age they are often encouraged to tidy up toys. Many jobs have to be age appropriate but they can always help and don’t most children like to please. I have popped in out children’s jobs as examples, they are from 6yrs to 11year old.

I challenge you to look at your daily, and weekly jobs, that you do all the time, list them out and how often then think how and who can help you take some these jobs.

Getting others to help you, will not only free up some of your time but also help others take bigger responsibilities.

I am hoping getting my own plans back in place, it will free up my time to focus more on business as well as more quality time with my children and husband.

Let’s not burn ourselves out trying to do everything…accept and ask for help…let out some the control. It will make things easier for you. Yes children may not do help to your standards but it’s a great experience to share and learn together.

Love, Stephanie Jane x